Friday, February 13, 2009

Lord knows...

Lord knows that I am trying. I refuse to fall into this "bitch" persona of the ex-wife. I am tired. I am livid. I am doing my best to do the things necessary for my sons.

So, let me tell you a little story that shows what I'm dealing with.

I got a call yesterday morning asking (again) why the bank shows one balance and I say there is a -20 balance. I explained (again) that some things haven't cleared yet. Some things are auto drafted. You have to have the money available in the bank for the due date of those things.

I told him that I was depositing a $200 check that my sister gave me as a loan. With that money, I would transfer 175 of it to open my new checking account. I'd leave 25 to cover the negative balance that would occur if everything outstanding would come out.

He told me not to touch that account. That I had no business in it. I said that I was still on it and he cannot tell me that. I said this would effect my credit too if things overdrafted and I am taking care of it.

I decided to deposit $50 into the joint checking because the boys needed valentine cards for school. I told him I did this.

He took the boys for valentines. Zack was not happy about the ones he got. He said the ones he really wanted had 16 in each pack and dad wasn't willing to buy him two packs.

When I checked the joint account this morning, I became livid.

Not only did he spend almost $50 at Walmart. He spent $17 at EatNPark. To top it off, he spent $110 at a jewelery store.

This means that, when the gas bill is auto drafted, it will overdraft.

So, the new girlfriend will have a VD gift...but the kids won't have heat.

Nice.

I'm seriously not sure how to deal with all of this. I cannot thank you all enough for the support and things you have done for me and the boys.

My life is SO blessed by all of you. Thank you SOOOOOoooooo much. It's days like this, when something rough happens, then I get a call of help and support, that I remember how blessed I still am.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow. This sucks.

Leslie said...

I contacted the gas company and had them stop the autodraft for this month only, which was to come out on the 17th. It is actually due on the 20th which is when his next pay and our tax return should be in the joint account. I texted and told him I did that because of his "purchases". He replied "ok".

Capt. Tight Pants said...

Did I read that correctly as the girlfriend has VD,,,? ;-)

Leslie said...

no comment ;)