They are amazing.
They know now.
They aren't going to school tomorrow.
They are sleeping in Zack's room.
Watching Star Wars.
We talked for over an hour at bedtime.
"Mom, do you know the 10 commandments???" Zack asked.
"Mom, the Bible says that you should never divorce unless someone does "that" with another woman." was Caleb's contribution.
"Mom, It's ok". Said Alex
How odd to have them try to comfort me.
They asked if they were going to have a step-dad. I told them that is the VERY LAST thing from my mind right now.
Zack told me that he asks for forgiveness for his sins every night when he prays. I told him that it is a very mature thing to recognize when you've sinned and want forgiven. That I was proud of him.
Caleb wanted me to know that he was cracking jokes for Zack to make him laugh. I told him that his humor comes naturally. That it can help him through MANY things and that is a true gift.
Alex just curled onto my lap and hugged me. Rocking back and forth. "Mom, you took off your ring??? I didn't know you weren't going to be married anymore."
I told them all that this is going to be one step at a time. That they will get some say so too. That the only thing they can't do is change what's going to happen. They can help make it as easy as it can be. That they are allowed to ask for extra time with dad if they need it. They are allowed to ask for extra time with me if they need it. They are allowed to suggest what would be easiest for them. If those things are doable, that dad and I will do our very best to make it happen.
I told them, that this will not be an excuse to get bad grades or be mean. That the fighting in this house was going to be stopping now. That dad & I love them and that will NEVER EVER change.
Those boys are exceptional.
They are truly my entire heart.
5 comments:
Leslie, I just don't even know what to say. I won't offer up any of the trite comments that people use in these situations. You probably know what I'm thinking anyway :) You handled your talk with the boys amazingly.... because you're magical. If you need to talk, you know where to find me.
Hugs.
Myself as well. Being open and honest (without being mean) with the kids is a great way to keep them.
I also don't know what to say, but offer anything you need, let us know.
And I would hate to guess what Tami is thinking. Every time I do I get hives..... :)
We're all there for you, in whatever you need.
You should see the hives Curt has right now. Wow, what power you wield, you magical woman.
I love ya. I am here for you.
Thank you for the support. I appreciate it SO much. I am not innocent in this divorce. There have been many things that have played parts in this. It's been coming for a while. As much as it hurts, I know it is the right thing.
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